I do believe that there is a balance to nurturing and allowing stumbles. I don’t think my parents were very good at nurturing but they sure were excellent at making me find my own way.
NPR ran a story March 17, 2014. When I listened I thought it is kind of true. I find kids no longer are exposed to successes and failures. When they compete they ALL get trophies; everybody wins or certificates are blanketing the classrooms. I have to admit when I was a child, and I was trying my best but I knew some kid was just being lazy, and we BOTH got an award I lost all motivation to do my best. I mean; why should I if the reward goes out to everyone.
I personally think that some adversity is a good thing when bringing up children. Making them face a challenge is a good a thing. I’m not saying to have them be scared out of their minds as you strap a parachute to them, and jump out of an airplane, but be familiar with your child’s skill set, allow them to struggle with something new for a bit. Give some great guidance that will assist them in problem-solving themselves, and then sit back, watch, and see the great shine in their eyes when they look at you and enthusiastically say: “I did it!”